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Online dating is changing the game.
Stanford's famous "How Couples Meet" chart got a refresh with 2021 data.
55% of heterosexual couples now meet online, up from 37% in the 2017 version of this chart.
As discussed recently with . We're seeing the quick decline of every relationship formation context apart from online and bars. Online was 55% in 2020, growing at about 5% per year. Likely 70% now.w
INTERNET DATING PROVIDES A WIDER POOL, ESPECIALLY A WIDER POOL OF RACIALLY DISPARATE PEOPLE FROM WHICH TO SELECT A MATE(S)! WHEREAS JUST 30 YEARS AGO MOST PEOPLE FOUND THEIR MATE(S) WITHIN A 25 MILE RADIUS OF WHERE THEY WERE BORN, NOWADAYS YOU CAN FIND YOUR SOUL MATE(S) HALFWAY AROUND THE WORLD AT THE CLICK OF A BUTTON!
Why Have A Child If That Child Won't Be As Smart, Athletic, And Attractive As You, Nor Have Your Disposition? No Point In Having One!
https://twitter.com/primalpoly/status/972657981740408833
I think people resist the data because the genetic factors are too strong - we & our kids are more or less at the mercy of nature. What do we do with it?
What do we do with it? We make really careful mate choices about who to combine our genes with.
PLAY THE ROLE!
Maybe living things - or, at least, the lucky ones - are somehow destined to achieve perfect one-to-one relationships; that is, perhaps everyone has a true soul-mate out there somewhere. The only question is whether these two halves of a potentially perfect whole will succeeding in finding each other, a la Plato's tongue-in-cheek version. Don't bet on it.
This is not to say that monogamy - even happy, fulfilled monogamy - is impossible, because, in fact, it is altogether within the realm of human possibility. But since it is not natural, it is not easy. Similarly, this is not to say that monogamy isn't desirable, because there is very little connection, if any, between what is natural or easy and what is good.
But let us imagine, just for argument's sake, that plato was factually correct: that for each of us, there exists the perfect mate, the ideal counterpart, the hand-in-glove Siamese twin with whom we would be perfectly in love and eternally happy. There are 6 billion people on our planet of whom we meet probably fewer than several thousand in a lifetime. This works out to about one in a million. Accordingly, for every person we meet there are about 999,999 we never do. And of those few we actually do meet, only a small proportion of those encounters occur for us at ages and in circumstances in which love and/or marriage - never mind sex - are even feasible. In short, the chances are pretty slim that we will ever meet our perfect other half, even if he or she exists.
6 Billion Divided By 1 Million Equals 6 Thousand. The Average Person Meets About 6 Thousand People Face To Face In His Or Her Lifetime And Half Of Those People Are Of The Opposite Sex And Of This Half Few Are Sexually Mature, Sexually Receptive, And Reproductively Viable When You Meet Them. So, Most People Will Only Meet 50* Or So People Of The Opposite Sex At A Time When Both They And Them Can Produce A Child. What Does This Mean? This Means That If You're Looking To Breed For Intelligence Or Athleticism You Better Surround Yourself With The Right Peers And Mentors Early In Life And Stay Among This Social Group During Your Reproductive Years Or You'll End Up Like ME (High IQ, High Athleticism But Left Out Of The Eugenic Mating Game Because I'm Not A Part Of The Right Social Circle).
*Back Of The Envelope Calculation
"I Guess It's Just My Luck, Dude!" - Suga Buga #Bitch!
OR YOU CAN CREATE YOUR OWN LUCK EITHER BY BEING SUPERSTITIOUS OR BY BELIEVING THAT G00D THINGS HAPPEN TO YOU (BELIEVING THAT YOU'RE LUCKY) AND EXUDING THIS SENTIMENT.
Begin Listening At The 14:54 Mark!
Lucky people score significantly higher than unlucky people on extroversion. “There are three ways in which lucky people’s extroversion significantly increases the likelihood of their having a lucky chance encounter,” Wiseman explains: “meeting a large number of people, being a ‘social magnet’ and keeping in contact with people.” Lucky people, for example, smile twice as often and engage in more eye contact than unlucky people do, which leads to more social encounters, which generates more opportunities.The neuroticism dimension measures how anxious or relaxed someone is, and Wiseman found that the lucky ones were half as anxious as the unlucky ones — that is, “because lucky people tend to be more relaxed than most, they are more likely to notice chance opportunities, even when they are not expecting them.” In one experiment, Wiseman had volunteers count the number of photographs in a newspaper. Lucky subjects were more likely to notice on page two the half-page ad with the message in large bold type: STOP COUNTING—THERE ARE 43 PHOTOGRAPHS IN THIS NEWSPAPER.
Wiseman discovered that lucky people also score significantly higher in openness than unlucky people do. “Lucky people are open to new experiences in their lives … They don’t tend to be bound by convention and they like the notion of unpredictability,” he notes. As such, lucky people travel more, encounter novel prospects and welcome unique opportunities.
Some guys have all the luck: Is randomness more important for reproductive success than the possession of "good" traits?